Relationships can be one of the most important parts of our lives, but they can also be one of the most challenging. Whether you are navigating communication issues, intimacy struggles, unresolved conflict or simply feeling disconnected, relationship counselling offers a space to slow things down and understand each other more clearly.
I work with couples of all backgrounds, identities and relationship styles. Some come to counselling after a crisis or betrayal, others come when they notice small issues building up and want to prevent things from getting worse. You don’t need to be at breaking point to benefit from support.
I support all kinds of relationships — romantic, platonic, sexual, chosen family, co-parenting or otherwise. This includes:
Couples (monogamous, polyamorous, open)
Friends and flatmates
Siblings or adult family members
Co-parents (together or separated)
Non-traditional or chosen families
People navigating kink, fetish or power dynamics
Relationship structures that don’t fit a label
I offer a safe, non-judgemental space that welcomes all genders, sexualities, identities and dynamics.
If your relationship includes kink or you’re exploring non-monogamy, this is a space where you can speak freely without needing to explain or feel shame.
I work relationally and person-centred, which means I focus on the people in the room — not just the problem — and I work with the relationship itself as the client. While I may be curious about your individual life experiences, my focus is always on how these experiences are playing out within your relationship. The dynamic between you is at the heart of our work.
I do not offer one-to-one sessions alongside relationship therapy. This is based on both my own clinical judgement and widely recognised best practice, including the Relate approach, which emphasises the importance of keeping the therapeutic space equal and collaborative. Seeing people individually can disrupt the trust and openness we build together, and can affect the balance in the work we’re doing as a team. Everything we explore happens with all parties present, so nothing is held back or kept separate.
I offer gentle challenge when unhelpful patterns emerge, and I help you reflect on the beliefs, behaviours and emotions that might be keeping you stuck. My goal is to support you to understand one another more deeply — whether that means repairing and reconnecting, navigating differences, or making decisions about the future with clarity and care.
I bring lived experience, a trauma-informed lens, and an understanding of how things like identity, neurodivergence, power dynamics and past trauma can shape the way we relate to each other. This is a space where all aspects of your relationship are welcome — including the messy, painful or confusing bits that are often hardest to talk about.
Dr. John Gottman
Toni Denton Counselling
Leeds West Yorkshire